Deciding on Rules Together

Remember, the natural order of things are to stray towards being out of order. A good way to fight the natural chaos of life is to stay organized. Institute a schedule and maybe some ground rules for when school is in “session.”

Keep the list of rules short, too many rules can feel binding but not enough rules can leave kids feeling unsure of what their limits are. Try having a “council” with your children when deciding on rules. By having your children engaged in the process it helps them feel a sense of fairness and encourage them to follow the rules themselves. It will also give them an opportunity to explore their autonomy in a safe and controlled environment while maintaining some boundaries.

Some good ground rules to establish are rules like “The TV stays off when school is in session.” When deciding on rules with your children, discuss with them why they think certain rules are important. This can help you in other areas of parenting; since it clues them in to how/why certain rules exist at home.

Remember, you are not handing over the torch to your children by having a discussion like this with them. You have the veto in the end after all! This is a chance for your children to work their critical thinking muscles and learn a little more self-governance.